So What Does Your "Mama" Got To Do With It?
What were your mother's stories about how she experienced her pregnancy with you?
One of my more graphic clients had a son that was 8 years of age when I began working with them. The original identified concern was his major anger management challenges. She had described him as having been born angry, always fussing and crying out of "nowhere." When I asked her what was going on in her life during her pregnancy with him, she shared that she was in a very abusive relationship with her son's father at the time. The father would constantly yell and curse at her, had actually pushed her down the stairs and had started punching her. She had not wanted the pregnancy because of the problems with the father, and felt trapped throughout her pregnancy. "Miraculously" her son was born with no complications.
He looked like his father at birth, which the mother admitted made it more difficult to bond with her son. He was always crying and fussing, and she could never seem to find a way to quiet him down. He developed asthma before he was one year of age, and eventually needed to be treated with a nebulizer. When he started school, he was combative with his peers and emotionally seemed detached from his surroundings. He was often described by his teachers as unmotivated, showing no interest in assigned tasks. He usually appeared very untidy and somewhat apathetic. The mother was at her wits end and did not know what to do to better help her son.
As the mother and I went through her sharing of her pregnancy, she was gradually able to see how her son had spent his initial experience in this realm surrounded by a lot of anger and violence, as well as with a sense of rejection and not being worthy of life. This was exemplified by his initial challenges with asthma, which emotionally is a reflection of not feeling worthy of life. His untidy appearance and apathy were also aspects of this theme of not having a good sense of self as well as reacting in "defense" of the violent energy that surrounded him during his gestational period.
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- Were you planed?
- Were you a "love" child?
- Did she carry you in secrecy or practically announced it to the whole world?
- Were you a product of a violent act or a loving one?
- Was the news of your pending arrival one of much anxiety and stress or seen as a special gift?
- Was there anyone in your family that passed away within the year of your birth?
One of my more graphic clients had a son that was 8 years of age when I began working with them. The original identified concern was his major anger management challenges. She had described him as having been born angry, always fussing and crying out of "nowhere." When I asked her what was going on in her life during her pregnancy with him, she shared that she was in a very abusive relationship with her son's father at the time. The father would constantly yell and curse at her, had actually pushed her down the stairs and had started punching her. She had not wanted the pregnancy because of the problems with the father, and felt trapped throughout her pregnancy. "Miraculously" her son was born with no complications.
He looked like his father at birth, which the mother admitted made it more difficult to bond with her son. He was always crying and fussing, and she could never seem to find a way to quiet him down. He developed asthma before he was one year of age, and eventually needed to be treated with a nebulizer. When he started school, he was combative with his peers and emotionally seemed detached from his surroundings. He was often described by his teachers as unmotivated, showing no interest in assigned tasks. He usually appeared very untidy and somewhat apathetic. The mother was at her wits end and did not know what to do to better help her son.
As the mother and I went through her sharing of her pregnancy, she was gradually able to see how her son had spent his initial experience in this realm surrounded by a lot of anger and violence, as well as with a sense of rejection and not being worthy of life. This was exemplified by his initial challenges with asthma, which emotionally is a reflection of not feeling worthy of life. His untidy appearance and apathy were also aspects of this theme of not having a good sense of self as well as reacting in "defense" of the violent energy that surrounded him during his gestational period.
What "aha" connections come to mind as you reflect on the above exercise? Visit www.MutsMer.com for more information.
Posted by MutsMer.com at 12/9/2009 2:56 PM 
Categories: Pregnancy, Healthy Legacy, Physical Body Reflection, Your Birth
Tags: miraculous healthy born nebulizer legacy angry father secrecy family violent gestational period mother rejection anxiety loving child relationship kenisiology apathy asthma defense challenges crying pregnancy exercise
Categories: Pregnancy, Healthy Legacy, Physical Body Reflection, Your Birth
Tags: miraculous healthy born nebulizer legacy angry father secrecy family violent gestational period mother rejection anxiety loving child relationship kenisiology apathy asthma defense challenges crying pregnancy exercise
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