Your Parents Story & You
What was your parent's story during their pregnancy with you?
Now that you have looked at each of your parent’s reaction to your pending arrival, what was their relationship like with each other? Were they very loving and supportive of each other? Was it a daily "battlefield" filled with stress and anxiety?
Reflect on "their story" during their pregnancy with you and consider the following:
In one of my trainings, we did a similar exercise as a group. One of the participants visualized it being time to be born. She then reflected on the way her parents related to each other. She described them as always bickering at each other and that there was always a lot of tension between them. The parents would argue about money, their home, each other's family, etc. As she become more in touch with the scenario and then as a baby getting ready to be born, she became more in touch with her own anxiety of being in that setting. She shared how she was born over a week later than was planned and could now see why this was - "who would want to be born into such chaos?!" she exclaimed. From this exercise, she was able to see connections between the way her parents had related to each other during that time and her being a very nervous and "temperamental" baby. She could also see the way it affected the way she was with her own children during her pregnancies and their births.
In what ways did your parent's relationship color your arrival into this world? Visit www.MutsMer.com for more information.
Now that you have looked at each of your parent’s reaction to your pending arrival, what was their relationship like with each other? Were they very loving and supportive of each other? Was it a daily "battlefield" filled with stress and anxiety?
Reflect on "their story" during their pregnancy with you and consider the following:
- What thoughts come to mind?
- Pretend you are watching it like a mini television series in your head
- Become aware of what feelings come up for you and where in your body you feel them
- Picture yourself as a baby getting ready to enter the world in the scenario you have envisioned; is this a scenario you are looking forward to entering into or one filled with apprehension?
In one of my trainings, we did a similar exercise as a group. One of the participants visualized it being time to be born. She then reflected on the way her parents related to each other. She described them as always bickering at each other and that there was always a lot of tension between them. The parents would argue about money, their home, each other's family, etc. As she become more in touch with the scenario and then as a baby getting ready to be born, she became more in touch with her own anxiety of being in that setting. She shared how she was born over a week later than was planned and could now see why this was - "who would want to be born into such chaos?!" she exclaimed. From this exercise, she was able to see connections between the way her parents had related to each other during that time and her being a very nervous and "temperamental" baby. She could also see the way it affected the way she was with her own children during her pregnancies and their births.
In what ways did your parent's relationship color your arrival into this world? Visit www.MutsMer.com for more information.
Posted by MutsMer.com at 1/6/2010 2:35 PM 
Categories: Reflection, Parenting, Birth
Tags: connection pregnancy stress scenario arrival born supportive loving baby chaos tension journey parent's reflections
Categories: Reflection, Parenting, Birth
Tags: connection pregnancy stress scenario arrival born supportive loving baby chaos tension journey parent's reflections
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