Cracking the "Sugar Story" Code
So just where did the "sugar story" come from?
I am referring to the "story" many of us have regarding "diabetes" running in our family. For some, it is hypertension, migraine headaches, ulcers, this list goes on and on. There is also another list of family stories of domestic violence, alcoholism, drug abuse, incarceration, and that list goes on and on also. I have even had families tell me that their child's bad behavior is "in their blood," that the child inherited bad genes from some undesirable part of the family. Is it really such a hopeless scenario of the luck of the draw of whether or not you inherit "good genes" or not?
Suppose we look outside of the box for a moment and look at the patterns of thought and behavior as what we actually "inherit" from generation to generation. Your greatest role models are the ones who were your first connections in this world, your biological parents. If you revisit some of the earlier exercises you did in this journey, you will understand why this is so. From that foundation, whoever were your original guardians were the next major players, with variations by whoever significant others were also in your life. This is why guardians get frustrated by children they are raising that are not their biological children. I have had guardians ask me why the child has some of their parent’s ways, when the child does not even know them. This is related to the circumstances the child was conceived in and experienced during pregnancy. This is also able to be shifted, but it has to be acknowledged and explored before this can take place. That is why a lot of conventional approaches seem ineffective.
If you do not look at what was going on spiritually, emotionally and mentally, as well as the actual physical from the time you were conceived (if not even before that), you are missing a major part of the foundation of how you've been "programmed" to be. Just like the African concept of "sankofa," if you do not look back and truly understand where you have come from, you cannot know where you are or where you are going!
To help you get a deeper understanding of this concept, recreate your family tree in whatever diagram or picture form that works best for you. In this family tree, however, you are adding other things besides their names and how they are related to you. You will add attributes such as the physical illnesses they had, emotional challenges (i.e. alcoholism, domestic violence, etc.), their occupations, what they were best known for (i.e. the best apple pie in town or could fix just about anything, or the greatest womanizer known to mankind), their nicknames, etc. After you have completed this, also make note of which ones you feel most connected to and in what way. Also see what patterns play out in this tree in relation to your siblings and parents. First do this exercise from your own perspective and recollections. Then engage other family members and close friends in conversations to get a broader perspective. Compare the two and make note of discrepancies and gaps in the stories that are shared.
Many years ago I had a 12 year old student who was being raised by her maternal grandmother. Her grandmother had her from birth as the mother was a substance abuser. The student would see her mother on occasion, but there were gaps in their interactions since the mother would disappear for long periods of time. The grandmother was very upset, as she noticed many similarities between her granddaughter and her daughter that alarmed her. She was concerned that the child had inherited the same "bad genes" as the daughter.
She was particularly concerned as she had felt that her daughter's "wayward" behavior was due to the bad genes she had inherited from the father's side of the family, as nobody on her side had drug problems and all the other traits she associated with "those types of people " (i.e. lying, stealing, sexually promiscuity, etc.). Now she was beginning to wonder if her daughter had been attracting the same type of bad genes in regards to who the daughter chose to be the father of her granddaughter. She was not sure who the father actually was as the daughter had been "out there" when she got pregnant and was not sure herself. The daughter seemed to know it was one of three or four men she was "dealing with" at the time. The grandmother was further frustrated that the granddaughter was not more like her.
After all, she was the one that had raised her from birth and had given her good home training! The grandmother described herself as being very feminine, proper, honest, and a devoted Christian. She described her daughter as being more tom-boyish, was now "in the life," was a real con artist and had not seen the inside of a church since she had run off with some boy when she was 16 years old. The grandmother shared that she had worked so hard to shield her granddaughter from the things her daughter was doing as she did not want to loose her the way she had lost her daughter. Now she wanted some help in rescuing her granddaughter from sliding into a "doomed" life, or was the bad genes she had inherited just too much to "cure." The grandmother also shared that the child had been in medication for ADHD for several years to help calm her down, but that the medications seemed to be loosing their effect. I asked if the child had received counseling with the medications, and the grandmother said some on a monthly basis.
As you read over this story, use the exercise above it to break it down into its own family tree. It may make it easier as a practice in order to prepare yourself for doing your own.
What "stories" do you tell yourself that have been passed down from generation to generation that you want to shift to create your healthy legacy? Visit www.MutsMer.com for more information.
I am referring to the "story" many of us have regarding "diabetes" running in our family. For some, it is hypertension, migraine headaches, ulcers, this list goes on and on. There is also another list of family stories of domestic violence, alcoholism, drug abuse, incarceration, and that list goes on and on also. I have even had families tell me that their child's bad behavior is "in their blood," that the child inherited bad genes from some undesirable part of the family. Is it really such a hopeless scenario of the luck of the draw of whether or not you inherit "good genes" or not?
Suppose we look outside of the box for a moment and look at the patterns of thought and behavior as what we actually "inherit" from generation to generation. Your greatest role models are the ones who were your first connections in this world, your biological parents. If you revisit some of the earlier exercises you did in this journey, you will understand why this is so. From that foundation, whoever were your original guardians were the next major players, with variations by whoever significant others were also in your life. This is why guardians get frustrated by children they are raising that are not their biological children. I have had guardians ask me why the child has some of their parent’s ways, when the child does not even know them. This is related to the circumstances the child was conceived in and experienced during pregnancy. This is also able to be shifted, but it has to be acknowledged and explored before this can take place. That is why a lot of conventional approaches seem ineffective.
If you do not look at what was going on spiritually, emotionally and mentally, as well as the actual physical from the time you were conceived (if not even before that), you are missing a major part of the foundation of how you've been "programmed" to be. Just like the African concept of "sankofa," if you do not look back and truly understand where you have come from, you cannot know where you are or where you are going!
To help you get a deeper understanding of this concept, recreate your family tree in whatever diagram or picture form that works best for you. In this family tree, however, you are adding other things besides their names and how they are related to you. You will add attributes such as the physical illnesses they had, emotional challenges (i.e. alcoholism, domestic violence, etc.), their occupations, what they were best known for (i.e. the best apple pie in town or could fix just about anything, or the greatest womanizer known to mankind), their nicknames, etc. After you have completed this, also make note of which ones you feel most connected to and in what way. Also see what patterns play out in this tree in relation to your siblings and parents. First do this exercise from your own perspective and recollections. Then engage other family members and close friends in conversations to get a broader perspective. Compare the two and make note of discrepancies and gaps in the stories that are shared.
Many years ago I had a 12 year old student who was being raised by her maternal grandmother. Her grandmother had her from birth as the mother was a substance abuser. The student would see her mother on occasion, but there were gaps in their interactions since the mother would disappear for long periods of time. The grandmother was very upset, as she noticed many similarities between her granddaughter and her daughter that alarmed her. She was concerned that the child had inherited the same "bad genes" as the daughter.
She was particularly concerned as she had felt that her daughter's "wayward" behavior was due to the bad genes she had inherited from the father's side of the family, as nobody on her side had drug problems and all the other traits she associated with "those types of people " (i.e. lying, stealing, sexually promiscuity, etc.). Now she was beginning to wonder if her daughter had been attracting the same type of bad genes in regards to who the daughter chose to be the father of her granddaughter. She was not sure who the father actually was as the daughter had been "out there" when she got pregnant and was not sure herself. The daughter seemed to know it was one of three or four men she was "dealing with" at the time. The grandmother was further frustrated that the granddaughter was not more like her.
After all, she was the one that had raised her from birth and had given her good home training! The grandmother described herself as being very feminine, proper, honest, and a devoted Christian. She described her daughter as being more tom-boyish, was now "in the life," was a real con artist and had not seen the inside of a church since she had run off with some boy when she was 16 years old. The grandmother shared that she had worked so hard to shield her granddaughter from the things her daughter was doing as she did not want to loose her the way she had lost her daughter. Now she wanted some help in rescuing her granddaughter from sliding into a "doomed" life, or was the bad genes she had inherited just too much to "cure." The grandmother also shared that the child had been in medication for ADHD for several years to help calm her down, but that the medications seemed to be loosing their effect. I asked if the child had received counseling with the medications, and the grandmother said some on a monthly basis.
As you read over this story, use the exercise above it to break it down into its own family tree. It may make it easier as a practice in order to prepare yourself for doing your own.
What "stories" do you tell yourself that have been passed down from generation to generation that you want to shift to create your healthy legacy? Visit www.MutsMer.com for more information.
Posted by MutsMer.com at 2/5/2010 2:35 PM 
Categories: Family Tree, Generational, Family Traits
Tags: Generational behavior ulcers Family Traits father violence migraines diabetes Christian child parents pregnancy generation biological grandparents genes Family Tree sankofa
Categories: Family Tree, Generational, Family Traits
Tags: Generational behavior ulcers Family Traits father violence migraines diabetes Christian child parents pregnancy generation biological grandparents genes Family Tree sankofa
I think we can all relate to the story of the grandmother and her granddaughter. I can remember when my own parents died, each from cancer, and my brother said, "Now I know what disease will cause my death". I choose not to buy into that and to change my nutritional habits. As you began your blog, you talked about sugar. Sugar feeds cancer cells. One way I decided not to "inherit the bad genes" is to cut out sugar from my diet. Here's to a healthy legacy!
Susan R. Rabinowitz
Author of NO Evidence Of Disease: A Survivor's Healing Recipe Made Easy!
www.NoEvidenceOfDiseaseBook.com
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