Mind - Body Connection In The Here And Now
How does your family tree tie into your personal challenges now?
As you explored your family tree, there are various patterns that may have stood out for you. These patterns are clues as to how you got to be where and who you are now. For example, suppose you had a history of very bad migraine headaches. The results of various medical exams did not identify any particular cause for the headaches, but you were told that you could use various over the counter medications to get some relief from the pain. After awhile, you found yourself using pain killers almost like candy in your attempts to escape the excruciating pain.
A different approach would be to first identify where in your head the pain seemed to be coming from. With migraines, it is usually around the eyes. This would be your first clue. This type of headache is literally letting you know that there was something particularly painful for you to look at in your life (usually something that originated somewhere in your past). Sometimes, one side of the head is more painful than the other. The left side represents the feminine energy, which is related to your creativity and nurturing issues. The right side represents the masculine energy, which is related to manifesting career goals, and asserting yourself.
As you began to look at the migraine from this perspective, you would be able to see how these clues showed up in your life. Also, various foods such as caffeine, red grapes and wine to name a few, tend to make migraines worse. You would also explore your pattern of eating these foods and/or your cravings for these foods. You would look to see who else in your family tree had migraines and how they are connected to you in the format that you had drawn out your family tree based on the exercises in previous sections. All of this would help you to begin to connect the dots like in a mystery novel, until you were able to discover the source of the migraine. This would allow you to shift whatever these challenges were as you would have a broader and deeper understanding of the source of the underlying trauma.
Depending on the intensity and complexity of the source, you may need outside support to actually be able to work through the root of the trauma. However, once this is done, it would be less likely to resurface as there would no longer need to be symptoms trying to get your attention as the underlying need would have been resolved.
I once had a client whose left leg had retained a great deal of fluid. As I was doing some reflexology on her foot, I began to explore possible sources of this retention of fluid. I knew that the left leg symbolized feminine issues. A lot of the fluid was around her ankle, which deals with the female organs. She was in her late 40's at that time. I asked her if she had any children and to tell me what her last pregnancy was like. She shared that she had three children, the last one in her early 40's. I asked if this child seemed to have any emotional challenges. She seemed surprised by this question and replied that for some reason he was born as a very angry child and was still prone to angry outbursts for no apparent reason. I asked her how she felt when she found out she was pregnant with her last child. She originally became very defensive and stated she loved all of her children very much.
I shared that in addition to being mothers, we were also human beings with our own dreams and aspirations. I went on to say that there are times in all of our lives that what we planned and what happens are not always the same. I knew that at the age she had her last child that it was common to catch women off guard as mentally they are beginning to prepare to focus on their own goals and needs as their children are getting ready to go out on their own. The woman began to weep and shared that she had felt so guilty as she was not excited when she found out about the last pregnancy as she thought she was finished and was looking forward to winding down with car pools, PTA meetings, etc. I reassured her that this did not negate her love for her child or make her a bad mother, simply human.
Within the safe space that we created from acknowledging and not judging her feelings, she was able to grieve the part of her that she felt was once again lost and validate her right to these feelings. She was also able to reflect how her mother had been in a similar situation during her mother's pregnancy with her. She did not want her son to grow up with the feeling of disconnect, as she had with her mother. She could feel a lot of her anger and sorrow lift as she was able to give voice to it and honor it for what it was. I explained how these feelings were being manifested in her leg in regards to the holding of fluid and how this release was connected to the healing of her challenges with her leg. We explored the foods that she tended to be attracted to and how to shift that to foods that would also support the release of fluids from her leg. We also did some relaxation and visualization exercises to help reinforce her release of various emotions and residual images that she was still holding on to.
Did it ever cross your mind that something like a headache, hypertension, etc. could merely be the tip of the iceberg to a much deeper and broader challenge that was within the realm to resolve? Visit www.CreatingYourHealthyLegacy.com for more information.
As you explored your family tree, there are various patterns that may have stood out for you. These patterns are clues as to how you got to be where and who you are now. For example, suppose you had a history of very bad migraine headaches. The results of various medical exams did not identify any particular cause for the headaches, but you were told that you could use various over the counter medications to get some relief from the pain. After awhile, you found yourself using pain killers almost like candy in your attempts to escape the excruciating pain.
A different approach would be to first identify where in your head the pain seemed to be coming from. With migraines, it is usually around the eyes. This would be your first clue. This type of headache is literally letting you know that there was something particularly painful for you to look at in your life (usually something that originated somewhere in your past). Sometimes, one side of the head is more painful than the other. The left side represents the feminine energy, which is related to your creativity and nurturing issues. The right side represents the masculine energy, which is related to manifesting career goals, and asserting yourself.
As you began to look at the migraine from this perspective, you would be able to see how these clues showed up in your life. Also, various foods such as caffeine, red grapes and wine to name a few, tend to make migraines worse. You would also explore your pattern of eating these foods and/or your cravings for these foods. You would look to see who else in your family tree had migraines and how they are connected to you in the format that you had drawn out your family tree based on the exercises in previous sections. All of this would help you to begin to connect the dots like in a mystery novel, until you were able to discover the source of the migraine. This would allow you to shift whatever these challenges were as you would have a broader and deeper understanding of the source of the underlying trauma.
Depending on the intensity and complexity of the source, you may need outside support to actually be able to work through the root of the trauma. However, once this is done, it would be less likely to resurface as there would no longer need to be symptoms trying to get your attention as the underlying need would have been resolved.
I once had a client whose left leg had retained a great deal of fluid. As I was doing some reflexology on her foot, I began to explore possible sources of this retention of fluid. I knew that the left leg symbolized feminine issues. A lot of the fluid was around her ankle, which deals with the female organs. She was in her late 40's at that time. I asked her if she had any children and to tell me what her last pregnancy was like. She shared that she had three children, the last one in her early 40's. I asked if this child seemed to have any emotional challenges. She seemed surprised by this question and replied that for some reason he was born as a very angry child and was still prone to angry outbursts for no apparent reason. I asked her how she felt when she found out she was pregnant with her last child. She originally became very defensive and stated she loved all of her children very much.
I shared that in addition to being mothers, we were also human beings with our own dreams and aspirations. I went on to say that there are times in all of our lives that what we planned and what happens are not always the same. I knew that at the age she had her last child that it was common to catch women off guard as mentally they are beginning to prepare to focus on their own goals and needs as their children are getting ready to go out on their own. The woman began to weep and shared that she had felt so guilty as she was not excited when she found out about the last pregnancy as she thought she was finished and was looking forward to winding down with car pools, PTA meetings, etc. I reassured her that this did not negate her love for her child or make her a bad mother, simply human.
Within the safe space that we created from acknowledging and not judging her feelings, she was able to grieve the part of her that she felt was once again lost and validate her right to these feelings. She was also able to reflect how her mother had been in a similar situation during her mother's pregnancy with her. She did not want her son to grow up with the feeling of disconnect, as she had with her mother. She could feel a lot of her anger and sorrow lift as she was able to give voice to it and honor it for what it was. I explained how these feelings were being manifested in her leg in regards to the holding of fluid and how this release was connected to the healing of her challenges with her leg. We explored the foods that she tended to be attracted to and how to shift that to foods that would also support the release of fluids from her leg. We also did some relaxation and visualization exercises to help reinforce her release of various emotions and residual images that she was still holding on to.
Did it ever cross your mind that something like a headache, hypertension, etc. could merely be the tip of the iceberg to a much deeper and broader challenge that was within the realm to resolve? Visit www.CreatingYourHealthyLegacy.com for more information.
Posted by MutsMer.com at 2/25/2010 12:09 PM 
Categories: Migraines, Pregnancy, Family Tree, Healthy Legacy, Clues
Tags: goals fluid Migraines Clues Pregnancy pain relaxation foods medication visualization exercises Healthy Legacy children feminine mothers masculine trauma Family Tree
Categories: Migraines, Pregnancy, Family Tree, Healthy Legacy, Clues
Tags: goals fluid Migraines Clues Pregnancy pain relaxation foods medication visualization exercises Healthy Legacy children feminine mothers masculine trauma Family Tree
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